I'm really sorry to hear what's happened to you. In my opnion your fiance was bang out of order and he obviously doesn't care for you that much if he cheats on you. The person you love more than anyone else in the world would not constantly cheat on you and hurt you. You'd be better off without him, pick up your courses and your job and get your life back on track and find someone new. He's a loser and you are worth more than him!

I wasn't meant to walk this world without you - Kelly Clarkson - Maybe.

plah,

He doesn't deserve you.. don't let a man decide whether you are happy and important..you can be those things on your own..be strong and maybe when he sees you this way..he MaY change into the all of the things you love about him.. but if not let him go.

Of course only you can make these decisions.

Ring the bells that still can ring.
Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack, a crack in everything.
That's how the light gets in.

~ Leonard Cohen ~

It sounds like you made a very big risk by leaving your job and courses. You must have had a lot of faith that this was going to work out and your fiance has completely betrayed that faith. If anything is a warning sign or alarm bell to get you back on track, your job back and go back to your courses, this is it. Don't look back now miss_boo. There's a big world out there and it's waiting for you. You are the one they're looking for to make it a better place. His loss is the world's gain. Don't look back.

Mistakes are the best way to learn in life and weed out what will never make you happy.
If you want reasons to stay with him, I'm afraid you might not find them. He is revealing to you, what you see is what you get. No person that truly loves another, would abandon them in a town that they don't know.
If he cheats on you now and makes you sad, he will certainly not change when he is married, because he enjoys and lives the life he has. This is very hard to hear, I know, especially when you have seen the nice sides of him, but if you sit down and make a list of the things he does to make you feel special and the things he does to make you feel miserable, your answer will be infront of you. There should be more laughing in a relationship and less crying...do you really want to spend the rest of your life like this?...girl, remember YOU are worth it.

The un-inspirational behavior of others determines our willingness to believe their words. Their life and truths then become like wind, collecting dust in its passing. -lea

Leave him ! If you don't it will get worse ! Move on away from him ! Don't give him another chance. It's time to get the partner you deserve, someone who will respect you and love you in return ! Someone who would do anything to show how much he cares.

Je grimperai sur l'espace lumineux,
Je traverserai l'esprit de la terre,
Je cheminerai dans la lumière
Et j'atteindrai l'étoile.

if he is cheating, why stay engaged, and why stay in a relationship. As for college, you can go to college anywhere so don't let that be a worry to you either way.


Well if he locks you out, what does it tell you about his inability to be mature enough to be able to still be in the same room or building as you even when you have argued.


If you don't know him that well, which it seems like - if he can't even think of your feelings when you are left outside in a strange place for hours after an arguement. Then what are you doing getting engaged?


If you want to move, or make a new life, you don't have to do it by having a boyfriend to move in with. You can move in with friends, or new people looking for housemates, or others wherever you go to college if you join up to one again, or just do something alone. I guess there are lots of opportunities, if you get advice from careers organisations, and working and travel websites.


You said he is the only guy that makes you feel happy and important, but I think you are just saying that because you are used to saying it, and forgot to change it when your feelings changed. Because based on what you have said about him, I don't really think he is making you happy, or feel important. He seems to make you feel the opposite.


Do you think you really want to be with him anymore? Maybe the memories are happy, but if he doesn't make you happy now, but rather unhappy, then you should think about if you are just confused about what you want him to be, and thinking that this is what he is, so not truly weighing up the bad points and problems in a more realistic and unemotional way.

I'm so sorry for you. I know what you're going through... Yes you made a mistake. You learned from it. Leave the guy. He will never ever going to change - believe me. Don't let him take your time one second more! I was in a roller-coaster relationship for 20 years. It's not worth it. Don't do it! You are a good girl and smart too. He really doesn't deserve you - beach house or not. Now just think about the facts and decide what is the best things you can do about your situation. The past has gone, so you don't need to have any regrets. It happens, these things I mean. Some men are so charming and yet - too good to be true, literally! Good luck! I hope you let me know how it worked out for you.

(=^.^=)

In life and times we always spend time and fall in love with the wrong people before we find the right ones, these always serve as learning paths, they make you fall but you will always rise again but only this time stronger. From your case this is an obvious wrong one, he cheats treats you bad and makes your cry all the time. Life is too short dont let him waste a better part of yours, organise yourself and move on with your life, the best always lies ahead.

Andrew

davenewfriend80 is right i was stuck in a dead end relationship and series of break ups and making ups but then i did realise that i was only used to saying that i loved him and that he made me feel good. those only happened at the beginning of relationship. It may even hurt you now to leave him but you will save yourself a lot of hassle.

Wish you the best.

I agree with all the stuff people are saying above--and want to add that nothing should make you feel awkward about going back. We all made bad (or not best) choices, all of us. You are one of the lucky ones because you got away from the guy. Sky is right--a man who truly loves you will never do anything like that to you. Even dogs are treated better.

You seem smart and vibrant and that alone gives you a great big plus in the column of "things I've got going for me." I'm sure there are many more that I don't know about. So you don't need some beach house or guy who might make you feel more grown up (being away from the parents and all) to make you feel good and important. YOU can do that for yourself, and that's the way it should always be, even when you one day find someone good enough for you.

And I think you DO have that internal feeling of self worth--you got in that car and drove away, after all. Good move!

I hope you will have happy news to tell us down the road.

From the sublime to the ridiculous is but one step--Napolean Bonaparte

Well i know it's hard to say goodbye when you love someone a lot, but really, you don't need someone in your life who makes you cry and cheats on you. - Someone who loves you isn't supposed to hurt you and make you cry!

"Watch your step by the crowd of fanatics, while they kill in the name of applied mathematics"

I thought my situation is the worst of all, but it is nothing in comparison with yours. Well we girls must be strong even if looking feminine weak. Do not let men humiliate you never ever no matter how you love him.

Go out on the lash.

You'll feel better in the morning.

I can seriouly see a problem here... Sometimes tragic things happen when you move together with a person you love. Suddently you're not alone anymore, and somehow you can't do what ever you want, and there's bills etc...
I believe that you moved into his apartment because you thought that you would stay together! - And like you said, everything was find... until he cheated on you. I'm sorry but, once a cheater, always a cheater.
I think it's important that you first of all, are thinking about yourself. Figure out what you want... Leave him, and ignore him. I think that you should get on with your life. Move back to your parents, maybe find an apartment for yourself, get a new life and get back to school.
Even though you might love him and your heart might be broken, you'll get over him by the time. I believe that you can get something better than that.
Hope you could use this... Good luck.

Sorry to hear your problems ...

I think u deserve a better guy ... he cheats, locks u out of the apartment - how can u feel natural with him when he makes u feel so sad?

Find a guy that deserves u ... even if it means having to move back home

Every blade of grass has its angel that bends over it and whispers, 'Grow, grow.'

Honestly babe how can someone who locks you out of your house in a strange place make you feel special, forget the jerk plenty of more handsome men around i bet and go back to your family you will always have thier support no matter what, hope all works out but i know love hurts so you will probablystay with him but take no crap time for you to treat him mean and kepp him keen do not be a doormat

You're young and free!! Don't allow him and anybody to cheat you. You should go back to your job and courses. Leave him, you don'd deserve a man like that. Through mistakes , you learn..
Life is like that, with errors and mistakes, rights and wrongs! You seem to be an intelligent woman, a singer and full of projects!!Go on with your plans!

"One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other"Jane Austen
"Some desire is necessary to keep life in motion"(Samuel Johnson)

Forget the guy!! He is nothing!! Looking for a really good friend! That´s a better way to begin a good relationship!! Good luck!!

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DUMP him! A guy is not worth the tears. Unless its tears of laughter.
Trust the great Kimmeh! You give up your degree for him and drive all the way to SC for him and then he treat you like a bag of crap!
There are a dozen of better people out there. Dump him and find someone better.

"straight" isn't normal, it's just very common"

he's not worth the time of day, he sounds like a right asshead to treat you the way he did, I'm sure there are some wonderful guys there for you in North Carolina. give yourself time to heal and i'm positive Mr Right is just around the corner

I feel sorry for you. Boot him out of your life! He doesn't deserve you. A person acting that way is totally inhuman. There will be a wound for some time, it will become a scarf for the rest of your life. But you must get over it. Hope you will soon be fine again.

Cut his testi's off...you'll feel better for it

Use the collective experience you see here..and follow your instincts.
Your instincts are screaming at you about right now..
They are invested in your survival..

Trust me that this heartbreak WILL pass..
but you have to set limits and decide right now what you will and will not live with.
What you want to live with.
This decision could affect your entire future.

The thing that will not go away are the wasted years and the anguish that will be yours if you stick with this guy.
It will not get better with him (at least in no way other than temporarily- to win you back)
and it will, in some shape or form, happen again and again.
if you let it..
You will not only survive without him..
you will thrive.

The best way to cheer yourself up...is to cheer somebody else up..
MT

Sorry for what happened to you. I can't get my head around how mean some people can be towards the very people they love. i think you should move on with your life, go back to college and try to get your job back, if your BF wants you back-which is not likely after what he did to you- he knows where he can find you. If not, it's not the end of the world!