What attracts you to a partner
Just wondering what attracts people to the people they date.. is it physical attraction or have you been friends and things have developed ?
For me personally a good sense of humour is a must.. I like someone who can make me laugh.. I like to have fun and to meet someone who can make me smile when I think of them and look forward to spending time with them because i enjoy myself is a big plus.
What do you think ?
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Someones character is the most important to me and if I can talk with a person.
I am attracted to nice and warm personality, intelligence, good sense of humor, sweetness and kindness, confidence.
Its their personality more than anything, someone who is kind, funny, caring ...someone who has a nice happy smily face.... i have been on dates before where there was no physical attraction whatsoever but over time that developed. Althou with my b/f now as soon as i set eyes on him i was attracted to him in every way 
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I will have to be the shallow one & say that the first thing I notice about men is how attractive/cute they are. 
I mean, unless you have your back towards them (or them to you) & they are talking, being funny, witty, etc..all you have to go by are looks, right? At first, that is. Hopefully, their personalities would match the pretty face, too. Now, if you get to know that cute guy & there's nothing there, well, I wouldn't see any point in dating that person..nothing too interesting about a cute face if the guy is boring/an idiot/a jerk/a lazy bum/whiny/etc etc.
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Interesting, my first thought, when I read the question was “that I can talk to her”, which was already mentioned by the only other guy on here. That involves what was said by Seagull, because these are, at least for me, the basics for a deeper relationship of any shape or form.
What I would like to add is, is that I need the person to be straight forward. Whenever people do not speak their mind, for whatever reason, they might let somebody else live in a world that is not true (real).
I also go along with Mighty to a certain extent. Yes, of course, there has to be a certain attractivity. Not necessarily on the first glance, sure, it can develop but you cannot deny that there are “no goes” for all of us.
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Interesting, my first thought, when I read the question was “that I can talk to her”, which was already mentioned by the only other guy on here. That involves what was said by Seagull, because these are, at least for me, the basics for a deeper relationship of any shape or form.
What I would like to add is, is that I need the person to be straight forward. Whenever people do not speak their mind, for whatever reason, they might let somebody else live in a world that is not true (real).
I also go along with Mighty to a certain extent. Yes, of course, there has to be a certain attractivity. Not necessarily on the first glance, sure, it can develop but you cannot deny that there are “no goes” for all of us.
What I would like to add is, is that I need the person to be straight forward. Whenever people do not speak their mind, for whatever reason, they might let somebody else live in a world that is not true (real).
I also go along with Mighty to a certain extent. Yes, of course, there has to be a certain attractivity. Not necessarily on the first glance, sure, it can develop but you cannot deny that there are “no goes” for all of us.
You're right, Joshky..maybe not the at first sight..there are some people that improve upon closer/better acquaintance...mainly because they are good, decent people.
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Beware Of Nargles & Watch Out For Those Garden Gnomes, They Nibble On Toes!!
In the looks department, my granmother used to say "It's okay when you wake up in the middle of the night and not get a fright when looking at the person next to you".
AS long as there is something nice about my partner, whether it his bum,eyes, hands, mouth, eyebrows or mouth... but something a little bit more than only personality that attracts me. If he can make me laugh and vice versa (very important) and if we can talk without constraints then I guess he will be the perfect guy.
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BogMyrtle
(Does it really grow only in Scotland and Ireland?)
lol, Definately the way he holds a conversation and the way he eats. Want to know if you are really attracted to a person, take them out to dinner.
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In the looks department, my granmother used to say "It's okay when you wake up in the middle of the night and not get a fright when looking at the person next to you".
so true - words wisely spoken 
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lol, Definately the way he holds a conversation and the way he eats. Want to know if you are really attracted to a person, take them out to dinner.
so tell me outta interest what would put u off when u take them out to eat? Eating too much? Eating with mouth full? Eating like a total pig
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Every blade of grass has its angel that bends over it and whispers, 'Grow, grow.'
lol, Definately the way he holds a conversation and the way he eats. Want to know if you are really attracted to a person, take them out to dinner.
so tell me outta interest what would put u off when u take them out to eat? Eating too much? Eating with mouth full? Eating like a total pig
lol, a real kicker is when he eats with his mouth open and you can't concentrate on your conversation, because he keeps reminding you of a drying machine at the laundry going round and round....but this one spits out bits that lands on your face and in your food...and he thinks you are winking at him, while you are trying to dodge the flying flecks....but the ultimate worst is when he removes his partial plate to pick out the lodged in bits...
then asks if we are going dutch tonight....
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The un-inspirational behavior of others determines our willingness to believe their words. Their life and truths then become like wind, collecting dust in its passing. -lea
A well groomed man that obviously looks after himself.
Yes Eight, that's true, but...
A guy as recently as last week said to me that a man who looks after himself in a sort of "committed" way, will not have time to look at or after his woman.
That rang a scary bell, and now bugs me.
Don't want to wake up scared shitless with a beast in my bed. Also don't want to wake up next to Mr. World flashing bleached & flossed teeth at himself in every mirror within nearby vicinity.
The ideal partner will probably have to now rely on the irresistable attraction of his "pheromones"... 
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BogMyrtle
(Does it really grow only in Scotland and Ireland?)
Any serious relationship i've had has developed out of friendship and spending time together.
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Mmm that's a hard question for me..
I think I should feel comfortable with him, like when I am being with him I am more comfortable then being alone. I like a good sense of humour too in a boy, but if there is no speaking at all I shouldn't feel uncomfortable. For me it's also important that I am a better person when I am with the one I love. If he only makes me feel emotions like; Jelousy and that I think he might betray me and he makes me feel insecure then I think it's not good. He should be someone who makes me like to do better things, like saving the last piece of a chocolate cake for him xD.
So that's about the inner most I think.. Although everyone always says that they don't mind how the outside looks like, I don't agree with that. It's just nature that some looks you are attracted too and some not. I prefer dark hair above light hair, although in some cases I liked a boy with blonde hair or something. He should have a good, like spontaneous, smile. And I am attracted to the smell om someone, some people smell really nice! And I don't know why but I have a fettish with hands! They have to be large, and very manly, but soft too!
my boyfriend smells good. and he doesn't just dream, he makes his dreams come true
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Eat me !
As much as I'd love to say something sexist and unnecessary just to annoy everybody, I'll tell the truth and admit that nothing turns me on more than a lady with an interesting mind. Girls who wear glasses are sexy because they LOOK intellectual, but it's when they open their mouths to speak is when the real truth comes out... Yeah, I'd say a good mind is the most attractive thing.
Physicality? Meh!...You can always turn the lights off.
Mh! its hard to say, but i her think,smile,eyes those ar things which attracts. Don't forget self respect.
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moddyulombe
Jacsback,
What happens the next morning - draw the X-xtra thick curtains? Might suffer a heart attack/stroke (much higher risk am) when reality wakes up next to you too...
And the VOICE thing...yeach that can kill any passion!
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BogMyrtle
(Does it really grow only in Scotland and Ireland?)
Jacsback,
What happens the next morning - draw the X-xtra thick curtains? Might suffer a heart attack/stroke (much higher risk am) when reality wakes up next to you too...
And the VOICE thing...yeach that can kill any passion!
1) Like a trapped animal, you chew your arm off just below the shoulder and get out of there before she wakes up...
2) The "voice"... ah, well... here is where one's level of diplomacy is tested to the maximum. If your partner has a voice that could peel paint, simply look into their eyes and softly say:
"Don't speak....Don't break the spell"
...hoping to Christ, they'll put a sock in it!
Someone who can make me laugh, whom I can talk with on subjects like music and where I do not need to mention references, and a very deep complicity (like looking into his eyes and "know" what he's thinking, on a joke for example). And also sometimes surprising.
Concerning the way he's looking, I pay attention to the hands, eyes, smile, hair and voice. But it's subjective..
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As much as I'd love to say something sexist and unnecessary just to annoy everybody, I'll tell the truth and admit that nothing turns me on more than a lady with an interesting mind. Girls who wear glasses are sexy because they LOOK intellectual, but it's when they open their mouths to speak is when the real truth comes out... Yeah, I'd say a good mind is the most attractive thing.
Physicality? Meh!...You can always turn the lights off.
Yep an interesting mind and someone that can hold a decent conversation is a good plus point
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Every blade of grass has its angel that bends over it and whispers, 'Grow, grow.'
some have already said what I also think: at least common looks and smart
For me it's not so much the sound of the voice but the accent,wales newcastle or julie andrews,but even that's not true,if you look at her and get that zonk between the eyes,everything else becomes secondary,and if it's a long term you are thinking,then take a bloody good longterm look at her mother,coz that's what she is going to look like one day..
brown eyes, same taste in music as me and when it comes to the personality, he has to be able to make me laugh and honesty is also totally important.
Friendly character and definitely a good sense of humor.
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"Those are my principles, and if you don't like them... well, I have others" ~ Groucho Marx
When I was younger I definitely went for looks, but later on I realized that, that was looking for trouble. As I got older it more important what their heart was like, so I would have to say it started as friendship and grew. I am a terrible romantic, and that what won me over to my man!!!
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my husband and i were only friends for 2 months before we started dating. i think if someone can make you feel good and make you laugh all the time that thats the perfect thing. but of course the attraction has to be there too.
I am personally attracted to men who can really make me laugh. I don't want any dull moments when I'm with that person. Also, I want someone who is very sweet. He needs to make an effort to make me feel special in any way.
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